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NEW WAYS of SEEING  by Mark Tyrrell

This book is designed for clinicians and counsellors, however, I believe there is a message in it for all of us. It is about the art of reframing – challenge meaning – is essential to effective therapy and good communication.

Communication between us appears to be diminishing as our lives get busier. There are times when family members or friends tell you about their inadequacies. Often we listen with half an ear and then offer platitudes that make us feel better, but do they help? By reframing back to them what they said and add some positive feedback they not only feel listened to but they may have a new way of looking at things.

Metaphorical reframes can be more powerful than direct quotes because it bypasses the analytical resistance in the mind. This means it as not directly connected with the issue the person has expressed. One reason the direct approach may not work is that the person may have already tried to sort it out themselves. They may have heard it all before.

For example, many people express fear of going out in a crowd.  A response could be to liken it to a faulty car alarm. Instead of going off on a rare occasion. It becomes sensitive and goes off all the time. We need the car alarm to alert us when someone is trying to break in. The car alarm is important, but it needs to be reset so it will not go off every time the car is rocked by the wind. Thus the person is not crazy or helpless. This is a very different way of communicating to someone about his panic rather than say get over it.

There are all sorts of ways we can use imaginative tools to improve our communication, especially with our children. A bad grade at school could be understood as there is only one way and that is up. the most important part is to really listen to what people are saying and use creative ways to help them to think their own way out of their issues.

I liked this book as it gave me so many ideas to improve my communication.

Books and politics

Hi all, this is my new endeavour to post some new blogs about the things that interest me. I grew up in a family that had an interest in world affairs and state politics. Added to that is my interest in history. I have a good memory and now reaching an age that is considered by some as wise, I have decided to use this page as another way of expressing myself.

Right now the greatest show on earth is Trump-Pence. I know people on both sides of the coin and the all seem passionate about the rights and wrongs of America’s president. What I know is what I read in all the papers and TV interviews. To me, it appears that this man has no idea of what he is doing.  I recently saw an interview with the Russian President where he stated that he sat next to Trump at a dinner and only spoke a couple of words to him. Given that Trump is not the kind of person to be ignored, I find that hard to believe. This puts into question all the rest of this interview.

Trump said a lot of things when campaigning, including he would not take pay for being president. Now I read he is the highest paid political leader in the world. Added to that is the cost of keeping his wife and child in another residence.

All this makes Australian politics seem so dull. If the party doesn’t like what their leader is doing they simply vote him out in the party room.

I watch with amusement and interest to see what will happen next in America.

Pathways in the mind review

M. Kelly debuts in world of psychological thrillers

New novel sends readers into labyrinthine realm of subconscious mind

BUTLER, Australia – M. Kelly marks her debut in the world of psychological thrillers with “Pathways in the Mind” (published by Xlibris AU). This new novel will send readers on a journey deep into the labyrinthine realm of memory and the subconscious where a young woman teeters between liberation and self-destruction.

“Pathways in the Mind” is centered on the life and experiences of Marion who lost her memory because of psychological trauma. Life for the young woman is a new experience, a struggle for survival but it also lets her unlock extraordinary abilities she never thought were possible. Marion’s situation is made more complicated with the arrival of three men who will each change the course of her life in some way. One of these men is Riccardo Rodregious who hides a dark secret behind his charming façade.

In “Pathways in the Mind,” Kelly has crafted a brilliant exploration of memory and how it can be both cure and curse. This futuristic tale filled with humanistic themes will absorb readers from beginning to end.

Pathways in the mind

What I love about writing is creating characters. then all I need to do is let them have their way. for instance I do not sware but one of my characters does. One day I was talking to my child when I became frustrated and let out a few choice words. I could not explain how my mouth came to do this.  Both my child and I were stunned.  I think this is what is called getting into the head space of a character. As a relativity new writer I wonder if this happens to others.

Pathways in the mind

I find writing a book easy and many people meet say to me either they are thinking of writing a book or they have a good book in them. This strikes me as strange and I wonder if all those people actually wrote the books wouldn’t the market be over flooded? I know for myself that it would require two lifetimes to read all the books I want to read.

The hard part for a writer is getting the book published and out there to the general public. This is the point that many would give up.

As I sit down to write my third book I wonder if it is worth it. If there are any successful writers out there who have made it on a shoestring I would like to hear from you.

Pathways in the mind

Every year 100’s of people go missing. Assuming they are not all killed what happens to he rest? Police find bank accounts not touched and no clothes are taken. It could be possible to assume that some have developed Retro Amnesia.

There is a story in the press about a man in England who lost his memory for 25 years. In that time he got married and started a business.  He was involved in an accident and had hit his head. When he woke up from a short coma he found his lost memory. He had a wife and children in another country. How did he get there and what happened?

Pathways in the mind explores how one person dealt with Retro Amnesia

 

Pathways in the mind

Pathways in the mind is based on the psychological theory that a baby is born with pathways not connected.

From the ages of 0-7 these neurotransmitters connect to form pathways for learning. Studies in England show when people have had a stroke or brain trauma new pathways can be created by training the other hemisphere of the brain.